how could I make friends if im like this?? hi I just…
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how could I make friends if im like this??
hi I just turned 16 and I have two friends but I would like to make more. the friends I have are people I don't really talk to consistently. I used to be in a friend group but being in that friend group made me realize that talking to anyone makes me exhausted, no matter what kind of person they are. before I stopped talking to everyone in that group they would always complain about how I wanted to hang out the least or how I talked the least or how I was so quiet. everyone says im so quiet for some reason. ive tried to talk to new people recently but I just struggle either with responding so it doesn't work out especially if the person is starving for my attention. and even if they try to respect my boundaries they start to like..treat me like im a baby. my parents do this too just because im 'quiet'. im not cute, im not a baby, and im not necessarily shy I just don't feel like talking. i try to tell people that wanna be my friend that I need a lot of space and I try to tell them to not rush me into speaking if they really wanna be my friend. something that doesn't help me make friends is when im invited to join a friend group and there's a clear social hierarchy which doesn't make me wanna talk since..im an anarchist and part of being an anarchist is like to be against hierarchies so.....
but anyways im so used to silence and just talking to myself..I wanna know how people feel when I don't respond but I say I wanna be their friend. how could I make friends if im too used to silence and being alone? how will my adult social life be if I can't even speak loud enough to order food? do I just need to find people who are like me? I don't blame anyone for getting annoyed when I continuously put off hanging out but how could I fix this?? even if I can't fix this, I would be willing to hear about how it feels to be on the receiving end of how I act, im always looking to learn about other peoples perspectives.
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hi I just turned 16 and I have two friends but I would like to make more. the friends I have are people I don't really talk to consistently. I used to be in a friend group but being in that friend group made me realize that talking to anyone makes me exhausted, no matter what kind of person they are. before I stopped talking to everyone in that group they would always complain about how I wanted to hang out the least or how I talked the least or how I was so quiet. everyone says im so quiet for some reason. ive tried to talk to new people recently but I just struggle either with responding so it doesn't work out especially if the person is starving for my attention. and even if they try to respect my boundaries they start to like..treat me like im a baby. my parents do this too just because im 'quiet'. im not cute, im not a baby, and im not necessarily shy I just don't feel like talking. i try to tell people that wanna be my friend that I need a lot of space and I try to tell them to not rush me into speaking if they really wanna be my friend. something that doesn't help me make friends is when im invited to join a friend group and there's a clear social hierarchy which doesn't make me wanna talk since..im an anarchist and part of being an anarchist is like to be against hierarchies so.....
but anyways im so used to silence and just talking to myself..I wanna know how people feel when I don't respond but I say I wanna be their friend. how could I make friends if im too used to silence and being alone? how will my adult social life be if I can't even speak loud enough to order food? do I just need to find people who are like me? I don't blame anyone for getting annoyed when I continuously put off hanging out but how could I fix this?? even if I can't fix this, I would be willing to hear about how it feels to be on the receiving end of how I act, im always looking to learn about other peoples perspectives.
#relationships
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