How do I learn to be interested in other people? This is…
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How do I learn to be interested in other people?
This is more just additional information. Totally skippable.
I’ve just always done better alone. I don‘t talk to my family, I don’t want friends, I mean I have a partner? That’s pretty much it. I just don‘t get anything out of knowing people generally and I really like my personal space.
But it drives me crazy to fuck up social interactions. The rejection stings a lot. So while I want the validation of doing a good job/being “normal” when I interact with people, that’s… basically it. I kinda just want an “atta boy” and then be left alone.
But I think my disinterest is crippling my social interactions because I just can’t think of questions to ask or things to say because deep down I don’t want to prolong the conversation.
Usually what I do is I stay as bland as possible, say as little as possible, mirror their language/tone, validate them, and rephrase their statements if I have to talk. I figure people are kind of egoistic by nature so they basically just want to talk to a mirror that tells them they’re great over and over.
IDK I’m always left with this feeling that I’m deeply defective in a way that’s invisible to me but obvious to everyone else. So, naturally, people have this gut feeling about me. It’s kind of always been that way.
#relationships
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This is more just additional information. Totally skippable.
I’ve just always done better alone. I don‘t talk to my family, I don’t want friends, I mean I have a partner? That’s pretty much it. I just don‘t get anything out of knowing people generally and I really like my personal space.
But it drives me crazy to fuck up social interactions. The rejection stings a lot. So while I want the validation of doing a good job/being “normal” when I interact with people, that’s… basically it. I kinda just want an “atta boy” and then be left alone.
But I think my disinterest is crippling my social interactions because I just can’t think of questions to ask or things to say because deep down I don’t want to prolong the conversation.
Usually what I do is I stay as bland as possible, say as little as possible, mirror their language/tone, validate them, and rephrase their statements if I have to talk. I figure people are kind of egoistic by nature so they basically just want to talk to a mirror that tells them they’re great over and over.
IDK I’m always left with this feeling that I’m deeply defective in a way that’s invisible to me but obvious to everyone else. So, naturally, people have this gut feeling about me. It’s kind of always been that way.
#relationships
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