raspy voice + stutter feels insurmountable in actually…
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raspy voice + stutter feels insurmountable in actually building social status/being "cool"
I spent a lot of my youth obsessing over my looks and a lot of you are blessed that all you have to do is improve some appearance stuff. The real killer is you work hard, do all that stuff and the moment you open your mouth, u might stutter and people think you are nervous when you really aren't - it's just not something I can dodge.
If I at least had a deep/resonant voice, I suspect more people would be understanding to the plight of the stutter but not even that.
I've reached a point where I often prefix to people "I have a stutter btw" and they're accomodating but u can tell they don't take me as serious after that. It's even worse if I don't bring it up because then they're thinking "wtf is wrong with this guy" or if there is something worse going on lol
Especially when it comes to the opposite gender, it feels like I'm just written off. It feels like - nothing short of peak pinnacle success like great job, pulling up in a BMW , or sharpest clothing would cut it.
I'm at a loss for how to approach this:
1. Do I double down as a meek personality/softie? and just accept I'm in the nerd bucket and that's all I'll be associated with? It seems to be the bucket I am put in.
2. Not that and just create a jarring response every time?? I try to talk confident sometimes or remind people I do cool things too but it just creates a "yeah right" energy.
Before anyone says it , I can't afford speech therapy and it is by no means some cure-all either.
I suppose what I'm really asking, is there anyone whose authentically winning with my "build"/if so how would they be doing it?
#relationships
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I spent a lot of my youth obsessing over my looks and a lot of you are blessed that all you have to do is improve some appearance stuff. The real killer is you work hard, do all that stuff and the moment you open your mouth, u might stutter and people think you are nervous when you really aren't - it's just not something I can dodge.
If I at least had a deep/resonant voice, I suspect more people would be understanding to the plight of the stutter but not even that.
I've reached a point where I often prefix to people "I have a stutter btw" and they're accomodating but u can tell they don't take me as serious after that. It's even worse if I don't bring it up because then they're thinking "wtf is wrong with this guy" or if there is something worse going on lol
Especially when it comes to the opposite gender, it feels like I'm just written off. It feels like - nothing short of peak pinnacle success like great job, pulling up in a BMW , or sharpest clothing would cut it.
I'm at a loss for how to approach this:
1. Do I double down as a meek personality/softie? and just accept I'm in the nerd bucket and that's all I'll be associated with? It seems to be the bucket I am put in.
2. Not that and just create a jarring response every time?? I try to talk confident sometimes or remind people I do cool things too but it just creates a "yeah right" energy.
Before anyone says it , I can't afford speech therapy and it is by no means some cure-all either.
I suppose what I'm really asking, is there anyone whose authentically winning with my "build"/if so how would they be doing it?
#relationships
source
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