Why do other people's presence make me feel more sad and…
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Why do other people's presence make me feel more sad and bored?
What am I doing wrong. Why do feel these feelings instead of joy and happiness.
Everyone keeps telling me that we humans are social animals and that I should make time for friends.
But honestly, being around people now and in the past usually makes me feel more sad than if I was alone. I'm really trying to understand what's wrong with me/the situation.
Since high school up until now (I'm 25), I would go out, be social, and then come home regretting everything and wishing I had just stayed home. I also have had multiple friendgroup. I get easily invited to things, I can be funny, I would say I'm normal haha.
Now at 25 I've isolated myself a lot more by choice and I'm actually much happier, I'm more invested in myself and have a better attitude about things. Well, except for those moments where loneliness hits hard and deep and you wish you had someone to share something with.
I'm not a depressed person either, so I don't really know what's going on.
It's just that the people around me either bore me or somehow make me feel sad being around them. I don't even know why. I'm trying to figure that out. Like it's like I'm hearing someone talk and it's just not interesting.
I'm very introverted and introspective and I love my alone time. I'm way more of a listener than a talker and I like listening. How come I can listen to podcast about anything, literally I could listen to whatever but as soon as it is in real life my brain goes "this is the most boring thing ever" or " I can wait to be done with this convo".
And it feels like everyone's advice is always "get out more" and "meet more people," but every time I do that it feels like it gets worse, not better.
I remember spending almost a whole year trying to make friends and connections, really putting myself out there consistently because everyone said that's what you're supposed to do. Nobody seems to care unless I make the EXTRA effort, idk and I kinda got a little annoyed with always initiating .... like we are all adults now, theres no excuse to not hitting me up just once. Lost a lot of contact this way.
it possible that I'm just wired differently, or am I missing something? I feel kind of at a loss because the standard advice doesn't seem to fit my experience at all.
#relationships
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What am I doing wrong. Why do feel these feelings instead of joy and happiness.
Everyone keeps telling me that we humans are social animals and that I should make time for friends.
But honestly, being around people now and in the past usually makes me feel more sad than if I was alone. I'm really trying to understand what's wrong with me/the situation.
Since high school up until now (I'm 25), I would go out, be social, and then come home regretting everything and wishing I had just stayed home. I also have had multiple friendgroup. I get easily invited to things, I can be funny, I would say I'm normal haha.
Now at 25 I've isolated myself a lot more by choice and I'm actually much happier, I'm more invested in myself and have a better attitude about things. Well, except for those moments where loneliness hits hard and deep and you wish you had someone to share something with.
I'm not a depressed person either, so I don't really know what's going on.
It's just that the people around me either bore me or somehow make me feel sad being around them. I don't even know why. I'm trying to figure that out. Like it's like I'm hearing someone talk and it's just not interesting.
I'm very introverted and introspective and I love my alone time. I'm way more of a listener than a talker and I like listening. How come I can listen to podcast about anything, literally I could listen to whatever but as soon as it is in real life my brain goes "this is the most boring thing ever" or " I can wait to be done with this convo".
And it feels like everyone's advice is always "get out more" and "meet more people," but every time I do that it feels like it gets worse, not better.
I remember spending almost a whole year trying to make friends and connections, really putting myself out there consistently because everyone said that's what you're supposed to do. Nobody seems to care unless I make the EXTRA effort, idk and I kinda got a little annoyed with always initiating .... like we are all adults now, theres no excuse to not hitting me up just once. Lost a lot of contact this way.
it possible that I'm just wired differently, or am I missing something? I feel kind of at a loss because the standard advice doesn't seem to fit my experience at all.
#relationships
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