How do I reconnect with an old friend from elementary…
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How do I reconnect with an old friend from elementary school that I haven't spoken to in 7 years?
Recently, I (M18) have been thinking about an old friend from elementary school (F17) and I want to reconnect with her, but I don't know how, and really I don't even know if I SHOULD.
So, for context, me and this girl were fairly close friends from 2nd to 4th grade until she randomly moved away one day and I never saw her or talked to her again. We were even in a childhood version of a "relationship."
This question would be a fairly easy question to answer if it weren't for the fact that I... kinda don't remember the ACTUAL dynamic of our friendship. My memories of our friendship are all over the place and they give me a lot of mixed signals. There are some negative memories of me acting avoidant and even mean to her, but a lot of positive memories of us spending time together and talking.
So, due to all these weird mixed memories, I'm really afraid she remembers our friendship in a more negative light than I do. My friendship with her has always been a highlight of my elementary school days which were quite rough. That friendship was a very important part of my life, but I am absolutely terrified that our friendship doesn't share even a fraction of that importance in her mind.
There's also a logical part of my brain telling me constantly how this is a bad idea. How people usually never give emotional weight to past friendships from elementary school and I'd just be weird and creepy for trying to reconnect with a person I last spoke to when I was 9 years old. It also feels like this is an emotionally charged idea and just an extension of my inability to ever truly let go of the past.
And also, for context why I even started thinking about her recently in the first place, a few days ago I saw her in person for the first time in 7 years and we were in pretty close physical proximity. She didn't acknowledge my existence in the slightest, but I figured it's because she didn't recognize me. But at the same time, it's just making me more afraid that she doesn't remember me, or worse, doesn't care about me. I also found her social media, which is what tempted me in the first place to attempt to reconnect.
So yeah, taking all of this into account... how do I go about reconnecting with her, and am I better off leaving her alone?
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Recently, I (M18) have been thinking about an old friend from elementary school (F17) and I want to reconnect with her, but I don't know how, and really I don't even know if I SHOULD.
So, for context, me and this girl were fairly close friends from 2nd to 4th grade until she randomly moved away one day and I never saw her or talked to her again. We were even in a childhood version of a "relationship."
This question would be a fairly easy question to answer if it weren't for the fact that I... kinda don't remember the ACTUAL dynamic of our friendship. My memories of our friendship are all over the place and they give me a lot of mixed signals. There are some negative memories of me acting avoidant and even mean to her, but a lot of positive memories of us spending time together and talking.
So, due to all these weird mixed memories, I'm really afraid she remembers our friendship in a more negative light than I do. My friendship with her has always been a highlight of my elementary school days which were quite rough. That friendship was a very important part of my life, but I am absolutely terrified that our friendship doesn't share even a fraction of that importance in her mind.
There's also a logical part of my brain telling me constantly how this is a bad idea. How people usually never give emotional weight to past friendships from elementary school and I'd just be weird and creepy for trying to reconnect with a person I last spoke to when I was 9 years old. It also feels like this is an emotionally charged idea and just an extension of my inability to ever truly let go of the past.
And also, for context why I even started thinking about her recently in the first place, a few days ago I saw her in person for the first time in 7 years and we were in pretty close physical proximity. She didn't acknowledge my existence in the slightest, but I figured it's because she didn't recognize me. But at the same time, it's just making me more afraid that she doesn't remember me, or worse, doesn't care about me. I also found her social media, which is what tempted me in the first place to attempt to reconnect.
So yeah, taking all of this into account... how do I go about reconnecting with her, and am I better off leaving her alone?
#relationships
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