UPDATE: There is light at the end of the dating tunnel……
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UPDATE: There is light at the end of the dating tunnel…
Back in Feb 2025, I made a post “I am so sick of dating”. I had just escaped a situationship with Mr FB (fuckboy) who talked about marriage, kids, timelines only to suddenly decide things were “moving too fast” even though he was in control. I was heartbroken, confused, and convinced I was the problem (only for a short time though 😉).
Fast‑forward March 2025, I meet a man who is not my usual type but handsome, stable, kind and upfront from day one. Within weeks he asked to be official. A month later I met his entire family. I was still cautious because Mr FB had me self diagnosing with all sorts of attachment styles. I also felt I was slowly becoming him towards someone who actually deserved better trying to protect myself.
Then life hit me,, I lost my little brother four months in and this man SHOWED UP. He helped me with DIY around the house and included me in his renovation plans “our place” he says. Took me on two holidays, three booked this year.
New year, he asked for my ring size, and we went ring shopping the day after Valentine’s. It still feels too good to be true, but I’m happy. Not overthinking like before. It feels like a healthy relationship / dating, no red flags, no confusion or “what are we” nonsense. Just two adults who know exactly what they want. He is not perfect and neither am I but he is the one for me.
AND because the devil is liar… Mr Unsure crawled out on Valentine’s Day, sent an audio saying “l just wanted to check you’re happy and living your best life… I didn’t handle things well… I was lucky to have you…blah blah blah blah”.
Did I reply? ABSOLUTELY NOT. I simply posted my Valentine’s gifts from my man, my man, my man, and let the silence do the talking.
Moral of the story, do not settle for confusion, or “maybes”. There are people out there who date with intention and they will not leave you second guessing. If dating feels exhausting, take breaks, set boundaries, and protect your peace. But don’t give up. If he doesn't want to date you, part ways - we don't need to be friends.
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Back in Feb 2025, I made a post “I am so sick of dating”. I had just escaped a situationship with Mr FB (fuckboy) who talked about marriage, kids, timelines only to suddenly decide things were “moving too fast” even though he was in control. I was heartbroken, confused, and convinced I was the problem (only for a short time though 😉).
Fast‑forward March 2025, I meet a man who is not my usual type but handsome, stable, kind and upfront from day one. Within weeks he asked to be official. A month later I met his entire family. I was still cautious because Mr FB had me self diagnosing with all sorts of attachment styles. I also felt I was slowly becoming him towards someone who actually deserved better trying to protect myself.
Then life hit me,, I lost my little brother four months in and this man SHOWED UP. He helped me with DIY around the house and included me in his renovation plans “our place” he says. Took me on two holidays, three booked this year.
New year, he asked for my ring size, and we went ring shopping the day after Valentine’s. It still feels too good to be true, but I’m happy. Not overthinking like before. It feels like a healthy relationship / dating, no red flags, no confusion or “what are we” nonsense. Just two adults who know exactly what they want. He is not perfect and neither am I but he is the one for me.
AND because the devil is liar… Mr Unsure crawled out on Valentine’s Day, sent an audio saying “l just wanted to check you’re happy and living your best life… I didn’t handle things well… I was lucky to have you…blah blah blah blah”.
Did I reply? ABSOLUTELY NOT. I simply posted my Valentine’s gifts from my man, my man, my man, and let the silence do the talking.
Moral of the story, do not settle for confusion, or “maybes”. There are people out there who date with intention and they will not leave you second guessing. If dating feels exhausting, take breaks, set boundaries, and protect your peace. But don’t give up. If he doesn't want to date you, part ways - we don't need to be friends.
#relationships
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