The romanticisation of first loves is one of the main…
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The romanticisation of first loves is one of the main factors keeping people in abusive relationships .
We NEED to stop romanticising first loves so much in media and pushing the idea to young people that you will never get over them. If you can't get over a first love and move on with your life that is something you need to work on. Too many people use that notion as an excuse to avoid processing and doing the work to move on. This is why we have people in their 20s obsessing over someone from high school and bringing that baggage into new relationships.
This isn't just an online internet issue either. I am 21 so I'm not a teenager anymore but I'm still a young adult who was raised in a time where I watched movies or heard people slightly older than me say that you'll never get over your first love. I personally have seen this happen with almost all of my friends where they stuck on the idea of their first love because they think they're destined to never move on or want that high school sweetheart trope so badly that gets pushed onto us even if the other person is toxic or outright abusive. I've noticed that it is keeping people in a cycle where they constantly go back because they've internalised this idea that they'll never stop yearning or thinking about their first love even when they're married and 30.
Even **some** people who are married I've seen still romanticise their first love and husbands/wives complaining about their partner not being over the first love. I heavily blame romance movies, media, and older people who aren't over the first love projecting their feelings onto younger people to keep them miserable. This genuinely has to stop. It's so common and becoming so destructive.
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We NEED to stop romanticising first loves so much in media and pushing the idea to young people that you will never get over them. If you can't get over a first love and move on with your life that is something you need to work on. Too many people use that notion as an excuse to avoid processing and doing the work to move on. This is why we have people in their 20s obsessing over someone from high school and bringing that baggage into new relationships.
This isn't just an online internet issue either. I am 21 so I'm not a teenager anymore but I'm still a young adult who was raised in a time where I watched movies or heard people slightly older than me say that you'll never get over your first love. I personally have seen this happen with almost all of my friends where they stuck on the idea of their first love because they think they're destined to never move on or want that high school sweetheart trope so badly that gets pushed onto us even if the other person is toxic or outright abusive. I've noticed that it is keeping people in a cycle where they constantly go back because they've internalised this idea that they'll never stop yearning or thinking about their first love even when they're married and 30.
Even **some** people who are married I've seen still romanticise their first love and husbands/wives complaining about their partner not being over the first love. I heavily blame romance movies, media, and older people who aren't over the first love projecting their feelings onto younger people to keep them miserable. This genuinely has to stop. It's so common and becoming so destructive.
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