Feeling Excluded Have you ever felt like a background…
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Feeling Excluded
Have you ever felt like a background character even when your with your friends? As someone who has found themselves constantly being in a room with the wrong people and felt like they are nothing but invisible I’m always careful of who I start to befriend. I also have a problem with overthinking and worrying too much which is something I’m trying to get rid of. So today when a few of my good friends were wanting to take pictures and I wanted to join in they asked if it could be just them. Keep in mind this has happened before so the first time I tried not to think about it then it happened again, and now I was just even more uncomfortable. When they invited me to the picture I just walked away. I was just so upset and taken aback because I felt so weird being pushed to the side by my own friends who I look up to and the fact that I just watched them be all cute and funny I just couldn’t stand it. Another thing to add was when we were talking with a few other people and someone mentioned they were at Culver’s a few of them said that they were planning on going but went to Portillo’s I was also a little bothered. Even though I was out last night doing other things with people it still would have been nice to invite someone. I get that they had their friend from home that they barely see but that they would have other of our friends with them bothers me even more. I went to one of my closest friends to pull her aside and explain how I felt. She understood and said that if it keeps bothering me and if I keep holding all this bitterness, nothing will get better for me unless I say something to at least one of my friends about my feelings. Also we’re all involved in a Christian church club organization at our university so everybody is super down to earth but the thing is I don’t want to be that person that people have to always think “Oh she’s always feeling upset or left out” or “Oh she just wants people to keep feeling sorry for her” I just don’t know what to do. The only thing that’s holding me back is what if I mention the picture thing and she says “Oh we just wanted a friend group pic that’s all” and doesn’t even know that my feelings were hurt. One of my friends did ask if I’m ok which did make me feel a little better because she noticed that I was sad. I’m just so tired of always feeling left out or feeling like a background character that’s always going from group to group. What should I do?
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Have you ever felt like a background character even when your with your friends? As someone who has found themselves constantly being in a room with the wrong people and felt like they are nothing but invisible I’m always careful of who I start to befriend. I also have a problem with overthinking and worrying too much which is something I’m trying to get rid of. So today when a few of my good friends were wanting to take pictures and I wanted to join in they asked if it could be just them. Keep in mind this has happened before so the first time I tried not to think about it then it happened again, and now I was just even more uncomfortable. When they invited me to the picture I just walked away. I was just so upset and taken aback because I felt so weird being pushed to the side by my own friends who I look up to and the fact that I just watched them be all cute and funny I just couldn’t stand it. Another thing to add was when we were talking with a few other people and someone mentioned they were at Culver’s a few of them said that they were planning on going but went to Portillo’s I was also a little bothered. Even though I was out last night doing other things with people it still would have been nice to invite someone. I get that they had their friend from home that they barely see but that they would have other of our friends with them bothers me even more. I went to one of my closest friends to pull her aside and explain how I felt. She understood and said that if it keeps bothering me and if I keep holding all this bitterness, nothing will get better for me unless I say something to at least one of my friends about my feelings. Also we’re all involved in a Christian church club organization at our university so everybody is super down to earth but the thing is I don’t want to be that person that people have to always think “Oh she’s always feeling upset or left out” or “Oh she just wants people to keep feeling sorry for her” I just don’t know what to do. The only thing that’s holding me back is what if I mention the picture thing and she says “Oh we just wanted a friend group pic that’s all” and doesn’t even know that my feelings were hurt. One of my friends did ask if I’m ok which did make me feel a little better because she noticed that I was sad. I’m just so tired of always feeling left out or feeling like a background character that’s always going from group to group. What should I do?
#relationships
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