Being kind to strangers is not as virtuous as being kind…
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Being kind to strangers is not as virtuous as being kind to your family
People act like being kind to strangers is some indication of a "good person" or at least a decent person. I think this is stupid. It doesn't take much to be seen as 'kind' to strangers. You could be minding your own business, and when your waiter brings your food you could rattle of a smile and a thanks without thinking much about it. That isn't special, the opposite of that would be saying nothing which isn't bad. Also, most people are not their true selves out in public anyway.
Treating your own family/relatives kindly is a different matter. Since you know them and they know you quite well there's no fakeness. So if you disagree with their views or their actions you can very easily talk shit and hold grudges. I see many people be all kind in public to strangers then talk shit to and about their family over things that could have happened years ago. These are not traits of good people.
I dont think it takes much to treat the waiter serving your food with a bit of kindness or indifference. Most people would rather avoid making a scene by stirring up conflict anyway so it doesn't mean much to be kind to strangers. That does not mean being rude is acceptable.
It takes a truly kind and understanding person to completely disagree with a relative's view points or actions and still treat them with respect and dignity.
You dont have beef with a cashier the way you might with a cousin. It takes more to be kind with someone you might actively dislike, rather than some rando.
It seems like the epitome of dishonesty when you present yourself as a good person in public while acting selfish or rude to people you actually know. To be honest its disgusting.
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People act like being kind to strangers is some indication of a "good person" or at least a decent person. I think this is stupid. It doesn't take much to be seen as 'kind' to strangers. You could be minding your own business, and when your waiter brings your food you could rattle of a smile and a thanks without thinking much about it. That isn't special, the opposite of that would be saying nothing which isn't bad. Also, most people are not their true selves out in public anyway.
Treating your own family/relatives kindly is a different matter. Since you know them and they know you quite well there's no fakeness. So if you disagree with their views or their actions you can very easily talk shit and hold grudges. I see many people be all kind in public to strangers then talk shit to and about their family over things that could have happened years ago. These are not traits of good people.
I dont think it takes much to treat the waiter serving your food with a bit of kindness or indifference. Most people would rather avoid making a scene by stirring up conflict anyway so it doesn't mean much to be kind to strangers. That does not mean being rude is acceptable.
It takes a truly kind and understanding person to completely disagree with a relative's view points or actions and still treat them with respect and dignity.
You dont have beef with a cashier the way you might with a cousin. It takes more to be kind with someone you might actively dislike, rather than some rando.
It seems like the epitome of dishonesty when you present yourself as a good person in public while acting selfish or rude to people you actually know. To be honest its disgusting.
#conversation
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