Need some life advice and encouragement right now So I'm…
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Need some life advice and encouragement right now
So I'm not really sure how to structure this in much of an efficient way so apologies if this is a bit messy. For starters im a 26 year old male living in Cali About a month and a half ago i started my own business. I wasnt happy at my last job, got worked non stop and was probably paid half of what i should have been making. So i decided to leave and start a photography business basically from scratch, no pre-set up clients or anything. So far i have been doing alright, I've had 5 or so paid appointments since starting. I do understand I'm quite early on, and i have genuinely been trying to tell myself things like this take time, but its just hard not to think about the long run and if i will actually be able to get and keep enough clients, and if i was dumb to leave my job even though it gave me basically the same amount of stress and anxiety. I also still live at home, which you would think would be good just starting a business but I have to pay my parents rent to still live here, albeit, it would be less than living on my own, but still is a substantial amount especially when again i just started a business and am watching my funds go down every week.
Living at home presents its own issues. I have lived in the same place with the same people for my whole life. my Dad never seems to pay attention to anything, gets upset about everything, and acts like he knows absolutely everything. My mom is incredibly over protective and opinionated, i try to talk about anything with her either about my life or my business and it becomes a lecture on how whatever I'm doing is wrong or is unsafe or i shouldn't do it, and mind you I'm a very well mannered person i would say, i don't drink, smoke, do drugs. and my brother is gone 90% of the time with his girlfriend/working and the 10% of the time i see him, we have quite literally nothing in common, that's the whole joke between us is that we don't have a single similar taste. not to mention, i have some friends that I will occasionally do stuff with like 2 maybe 3 times a month, but i have no one who would choose me first, who reaches out to me to do anything, no close group or even a single "Best friend". I go out dancing, I go to young adult groups, but everyone already has their core group.
And in a similar vein, since i don't really have any close friends, meeting girls is quite difficult. since I am pretty alone i have a lot of time to think, and that means i have time to over think, and I definitely over think things too much, which can be a problem when meeting girls. I try my best to just be myself, but lately everything has either been clearly they just see me as a friend, straight up no's, or just too confusing to understand. I try to be nice, be a gentlemen, try not to be too overbearing but still show I'm interested, but nothing seems to work there either. I've tried being patient and getting to know girls, I've tried to be up front and just ask some out on dates, but nothing ever seems to stick, which just overall makes me think am i ever going to get married or have a family in my life, which I really really want.
I am very appreciative of the fact that i do have a roof over my head and food to eat right now, but its really hard to find the positives in life especially outside of those two, when it feels like everything has just sucked for so long. And i wouldn't say its for a lack of trying either, like im out here going to meetings and networking almost every day, i go out dancing twice a week, and go to young adult gatherings 2-3 times a week, I'm putting myself out there like everyone says but i just feel like im dying on the inside as i put on a happy exterior.
If anyone just has some words of encouragement, maybe someone has had similar situations and found a way out, i would love to hear how you got yourself out of it. just been feeling more down and depressed than usual lately and don't really have anywhere else to turn to.
#inspiration
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So I'm not really sure how to structure this in much of an efficient way so apologies if this is a bit messy. For starters im a 26 year old male living in Cali About a month and a half ago i started my own business. I wasnt happy at my last job, got worked non stop and was probably paid half of what i should have been making. So i decided to leave and start a photography business basically from scratch, no pre-set up clients or anything. So far i have been doing alright, I've had 5 or so paid appointments since starting. I do understand I'm quite early on, and i have genuinely been trying to tell myself things like this take time, but its just hard not to think about the long run and if i will actually be able to get and keep enough clients, and if i was dumb to leave my job even though it gave me basically the same amount of stress and anxiety. I also still live at home, which you would think would be good just starting a business but I have to pay my parents rent to still live here, albeit, it would be less than living on my own, but still is a substantial amount especially when again i just started a business and am watching my funds go down every week.
Living at home presents its own issues. I have lived in the same place with the same people for my whole life. my Dad never seems to pay attention to anything, gets upset about everything, and acts like he knows absolutely everything. My mom is incredibly over protective and opinionated, i try to talk about anything with her either about my life or my business and it becomes a lecture on how whatever I'm doing is wrong or is unsafe or i shouldn't do it, and mind you I'm a very well mannered person i would say, i don't drink, smoke, do drugs. and my brother is gone 90% of the time with his girlfriend/working and the 10% of the time i see him, we have quite literally nothing in common, that's the whole joke between us is that we don't have a single similar taste. not to mention, i have some friends that I will occasionally do stuff with like 2 maybe 3 times a month, but i have no one who would choose me first, who reaches out to me to do anything, no close group or even a single "Best friend". I go out dancing, I go to young adult groups, but everyone already has their core group.
And in a similar vein, since i don't really have any close friends, meeting girls is quite difficult. since I am pretty alone i have a lot of time to think, and that means i have time to over think, and I definitely over think things too much, which can be a problem when meeting girls. I try my best to just be myself, but lately everything has either been clearly they just see me as a friend, straight up no's, or just too confusing to understand. I try to be nice, be a gentlemen, try not to be too overbearing but still show I'm interested, but nothing seems to work there either. I've tried being patient and getting to know girls, I've tried to be up front and just ask some out on dates, but nothing ever seems to stick, which just overall makes me think am i ever going to get married or have a family in my life, which I really really want.
I am very appreciative of the fact that i do have a roof over my head and food to eat right now, but its really hard to find the positives in life especially outside of those two, when it feels like everything has just sucked for so long. And i wouldn't say its for a lack of trying either, like im out here going to meetings and networking almost every day, i go out dancing twice a week, and go to young adult gatherings 2-3 times a week, I'm putting myself out there like everyone says but i just feel like im dying on the inside as i put on a happy exterior.
If anyone just has some words of encouragement, maybe someone has had similar situations and found a way out, i would love to hear how you got yourself out of it. just been feeling more down and depressed than usual lately and don't really have anywhere else to turn to.
#inspiration
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