People who use dating apps, are you looking for an instant…
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People who use dating apps, are you looking for an instant ‘spark’?
I find that so many people have no idea how to use these apps. These are complete strangers you’re meeting up with. Aside from the initial physical attraction, how on earth are you expecting to have some kind of amazing connecting on a first or even second date?
Think about your best friends or even your co-workers. Did those friendships happen overnight, probably not. You spent more and more time with them, learned more about them and then became good friends. Some people even spend years being friends with the opposite sex before they realize there’s a connection there and start dating.
Do those rare unicorn connections happen, sure I’m not saying they don’t. For the vast majority of encounters though, it’s not going to. You like someone’s appearance, you had a good conversation, keep seeing them. Don’t even treat it as a ‘date’ treat it like spending time with your best friends or co-workers. The less pressure you have on yourself to have a ‘spark’ the easier it will be to actually see if there’s going to be a connection.
This goes for both men and women. Just relax, talk and enjoy each others company. I promise the feels and the chemistry will come naturally later.
#relationships
I find that so many people have no idea how to use these apps. These are complete strangers you’re meeting up with. Aside from the initial physical attraction, how on earth are you expecting to have some kind of amazing connecting on a first or even second date?
Think about your best friends or even your co-workers. Did those friendships happen overnight, probably not. You spent more and more time with them, learned more about them and then became good friends. Some people even spend years being friends with the opposite sex before they realize there’s a connection there and start dating.
Do those rare unicorn connections happen, sure I’m not saying they don’t. For the vast majority of encounters though, it’s not going to. You like someone’s appearance, you had a good conversation, keep seeing them. Don’t even treat it as a ‘date’ treat it like spending time with your best friends or co-workers. The less pressure you have on yourself to have a ‘spark’ the easier it will be to actually see if there’s going to be a connection.
This goes for both men and women. Just relax, talk and enjoy each others company. I promise the feels and the chemistry will come naturally later.
#relationships
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