Dmed high school friend; no response. Are they ignoring or…
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Dmed high school friend; no response. Are they ignoring or genuinely didn't see it?
Essentially, I had this friend in senior yr high school who we got to know each other pretty well and hung out a few times. However, towards the end of Sr. Year, I started having more mental health stuff and it sort of made me unable to maintain friendships in the same way/difficulty in social interaction. I kind of drifted from a lot of people as a result, including this person. My last IRL interaction I had with this friend was that I saw them at prom, and they hugged me. This was 4 years ago.
About 2 years ago I tried to reach out to them somewhat awkwardly, we chatted a little over Insta about a shared hobby. We spoke about a convention we were both going to so they ended the conversation with "see you there!" But I didn't think necessarily that it was an "I will actually see you at this event," more just a kind of noncommittal conversation ender.
I told my therapist that I missed this person and really wanted to reconnect with them but that I felt it was awkward. My therapist encouraged me to anyway, and i sent them a message that went something like, "Hey, I know this is kinda random but I always remember how much I had respect for you as an artist in (shared hobby.) I'll be around if you want to get coffee sometime this summer."
It's been a little over a week and I haven't gotten a response. Now, this person has a public account with a lot of followers and doesn't follow me (I also made a new Instagram account since we last spoke, but they followed me on the old one and looked at my stories often.) Currently the message is in their requests. I'm thinking there is a POSSIBILITY they genuinely haven't seen it give the size of their account and the fact they probably get a lot of bots, but I also think they could be just leaving me on delivered.
I'm not going to message them again, but I'm looking for maybe input on if you think this is a bust and/or if it IS a bust, ways of coping with rejection.
**TLDR- Dmed HS friend on public account with lot of followers; no response, wondering if its actually likely they didnt see it and im spiraling or they are leaving me on delivered and I should take it as a no**
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Essentially, I had this friend in senior yr high school who we got to know each other pretty well and hung out a few times. However, towards the end of Sr. Year, I started having more mental health stuff and it sort of made me unable to maintain friendships in the same way/difficulty in social interaction. I kind of drifted from a lot of people as a result, including this person. My last IRL interaction I had with this friend was that I saw them at prom, and they hugged me. This was 4 years ago.
About 2 years ago I tried to reach out to them somewhat awkwardly, we chatted a little over Insta about a shared hobby. We spoke about a convention we were both going to so they ended the conversation with "see you there!" But I didn't think necessarily that it was an "I will actually see you at this event," more just a kind of noncommittal conversation ender.
I told my therapist that I missed this person and really wanted to reconnect with them but that I felt it was awkward. My therapist encouraged me to anyway, and i sent them a message that went something like, "Hey, I know this is kinda random but I always remember how much I had respect for you as an artist in (shared hobby.) I'll be around if you want to get coffee sometime this summer."
It's been a little over a week and I haven't gotten a response. Now, this person has a public account with a lot of followers and doesn't follow me (I also made a new Instagram account since we last spoke, but they followed me on the old one and looked at my stories often.) Currently the message is in their requests. I'm thinking there is a POSSIBILITY they genuinely haven't seen it give the size of their account and the fact they probably get a lot of bots, but I also think they could be just leaving me on delivered.
I'm not going to message them again, but I'm looking for maybe input on if you think this is a bust and/or if it IS a bust, ways of coping with rejection.
**TLDR- Dmed HS friend on public account with lot of followers; no response, wondering if its actually likely they didnt see it and im spiraling or they are leaving me on delivered and I should take it as a no**
#relationships
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