Am I overreacting for feeling put off by this? I'm not…
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Am I overreacting for feeling put off by this? I'm not feeling like talking to him
I've been talking to this guy. We live in different states and are generally open to long distance. Anyways, he wanted to facetime on saturday but I had plans and I had to cancel a few times, so I finally asked if we could do Thursday. That's tonight. Issue is, part of me says I should just do the facetime to be nice, since I cancelled enough times, but I'm not sure if I should just call the entire thing off altogether and stop talking to him. He seems like a nice guy, has a good job too, but there were a couple things he said that I found offputting. For one, since we live in different states. When talking about how a first meet up would go (several days ago), he brought up me coming to him (I thought it was a joke) but I said the middle would be best.
After talking about that, it seemed like we both felt it was the best idea. But then yesterday, he had sent me a photo of this lake he was walking by and I said it was pretty, and he texted back saying "That's why I said pull up here haha". I thought he was joking so I said "maybe someday !". He replied asking if I was just worried about staying the night at his and that I can just get a hotel if that's the case. How is it fair for me to fly all the way to him and get a hotel, while he just sits at home? I basically called him out and then told him to come to my city, and he said "touche" and then sent a detailed text about how he's been putting so much effort and getting hurt, so he feels hesitant to fly all the way and spend all the money that "girls expect" and feels used. He then said that I'm right and a mutual place in between is best.
I replied back to that saying that it isn't convenient to expect someone to come all the way to him while he doesn't lift a finger and he said "haha sorry, I don't trust that easily I guess" and now we're having normal convo. I was giving it a chance but all this kinda put me off even more. Am I wrong to find this kind of weird? I mean, gosh he's not the only one that's "been hurt" lmao. Should I give it a chance and facetime him tonight, since I cancelled the last few times already, or just cut it off completely?
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I've been talking to this guy. We live in different states and are generally open to long distance. Anyways, he wanted to facetime on saturday but I had plans and I had to cancel a few times, so I finally asked if we could do Thursday. That's tonight. Issue is, part of me says I should just do the facetime to be nice, since I cancelled enough times, but I'm not sure if I should just call the entire thing off altogether and stop talking to him. He seems like a nice guy, has a good job too, but there were a couple things he said that I found offputting. For one, since we live in different states. When talking about how a first meet up would go (several days ago), he brought up me coming to him (I thought it was a joke) but I said the middle would be best.
After talking about that, it seemed like we both felt it was the best idea. But then yesterday, he had sent me a photo of this lake he was walking by and I said it was pretty, and he texted back saying "That's why I said pull up here haha". I thought he was joking so I said "maybe someday !". He replied asking if I was just worried about staying the night at his and that I can just get a hotel if that's the case. How is it fair for me to fly all the way to him and get a hotel, while he just sits at home? I basically called him out and then told him to come to my city, and he said "touche" and then sent a detailed text about how he's been putting so much effort and getting hurt, so he feels hesitant to fly all the way and spend all the money that "girls expect" and feels used. He then said that I'm right and a mutual place in between is best.
I replied back to that saying that it isn't convenient to expect someone to come all the way to him while he doesn't lift a finger and he said "haha sorry, I don't trust that easily I guess" and now we're having normal convo. I was giving it a chance but all this kinda put me off even more. Am I wrong to find this kind of weird? I mean, gosh he's not the only one that's "been hurt" lmao. Should I give it a chance and facetime him tonight, since I cancelled the last few times already, or just cut it off completely?
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