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How can you be more curious and less critical?
I have learned that one of the quickest ways to create conflict with another person is to assume I know why they did what they did.
Think about it. Someone does something that hurts or disappoints us and almost immediately we create a story about their intentions. They did not care. They were selfish. They should have known better.
Yet when we make a mistake, we want people to understand what we intended.
That is where I believe curiosity can change everything.
Instead of immediately asking what is wrong with them, ask what might be happening within them. What do I not know? What experiences shaped their perception? Could this have been misunderstanding, lack of awareness, or simply being human?
That pause changes the energy of the entire situation.
But curiosity does not remove accountability.
When my actions hurt someone, I cannot simply say that was not my intention and believe that makes everything disappear. My intention matters, but so does my impact. Awareness means being willing to acknowledge both.
Most conflict is not created because people wake up wanting to hurt each other. It grows from assumptions, misunderstandings, poor communication, different perceptions, and moments when we simply were not aware.
So today, catch yourself before criticism becomes judgment. Pause before creating the story.
Become curious.
Ask questions. Listen. Seek understanding. And when you are the one who caused the hurt, own your actions and learn from them.
You cannot influence every situation, but you can always influence the energy you bring into it.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#curiosity #judgement #understand #decide #mean
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KNXRT
I have learned that one of the quickest ways to create conflict with another person is to assume I know why they did what they did.
Think about it. Someone does something that hurts or disappoints us and almost immediately we create a story about their intentions. They did not care. They were selfish. They should have known better.
Yet when we make a mistake, we want people to understand what we intended.
That is where I believe curiosity can change everything.
Instead of immediately asking what is wrong with them, ask what might be happening within them. What do I not know? What experiences shaped their perception? Could this have been misunderstanding, lack of awareness, or simply being human?
That pause changes the energy of the entire situation.
But curiosity does not remove accountability.
When my actions hurt someone, I cannot simply say that was not my intention and believe that makes everything disappear. My intention matters, but so does my impact. Awareness means being willing to acknowledge both.
Most conflict is not created because people wake up wanting to hurt each other. It grows from assumptions, misunderstandings, poor communication, different perceptions, and moments when we simply were not aware.
So today, catch yourself before criticism becomes judgment. Pause before creating the story.
Become curious.
Ask questions. Listen. Seek understanding. And when you are the one who caused the hurt, own your actions and learn from them.
You cannot influence every situation, but you can always influence the energy you bring into it.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#curiosity #judgement #understand #decide #mean
Background Photo Credit:
KNXRT
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