If I were in their shoes (spouse drinking/cheating with no change):
• Stay for kids or walk away? Why? 👉👉I’d walk away. Kids don’t need parents who are together—they need parents who are healthy. Staying in a broken marriage teaches them to normalize pain.
• Reconciliation or protect your peace first? 👉👉Protect your peace first. Reconciliation only works when both people choose change. One-sided effort just becomes self-betrayal.
• One key advice right now: 👉👉Don’t confuse loyalty with self-abandonment. Loving yourself is not quitting—it’s surviving.
• Rebuilding solo (dating, therapy, self-care): 👉👉Start with therapy, routine, and silence. Heal before dating. Rebuild confidence through small wins, honest friendships, and learning who you are without chaos.
• Kids involved—co-parent or low/no contact? 👉👉Co-parent respectfully if possible, with strong boundaries. No contact only if the environment stays unsafe or toxic.
• What joy can come from life with someone who stopped choosing you? 👉👉None that lasts. Any comfort is temporary, but the loneliness is permanent. Real joy comes from being chosen—or choosing yourself when they won’t.
Final thought: Walking away from disrespect isn’t failure. Staying where you’re unloved slowly destroys the soul. 💔➡️🕊️