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#SiblingRivalry
Are you writing from the perspective of a child who had (or has) sibling rivalry, or from the perspective of a parent watching your kids experience it?I’m writing from the perspective of a child who experienced sibling rivalry. I have an older brother, and growing up we were both very competitive with each other. We were close in some moments, but we also argued a lot because we both wanted attention and wanted to prove ourselves.
What’s your earliest memory (or your child’s most common pattern) involving rivalry or strong comparison in the family?One of my earliest memories was comparing grades in school. Whenever one of us got praised, the other would quietly feel pressured to do better. Sometimes we also fought over small things like toys, TV time, or who got blamed less during arguments.
Is there still rivalry or comparison happening now—and how does it feel?Now that we are older, the rivalry is less intense. We still compare ourselves sometimes, especially when talking about achievements or responsibilities, but it feels healthier than before. Instead of fighting, we try to support each other more.
What positive things did (or might) this rivalry teach you or your children about themselves?It taught me how to speak up for myself and handle jealousy in a healthier way. I also learned that competition is not always bad because it pushed me to improve myself and become more independent.
What’s one thing you wish could be different about how this rivalry shows up?I wish we compared ourselves less and appreciated each other more while growing up. It would have made our relationship kinder and less stressful.
If you could talk to your younger self or your younger children during a tough rivalry moment, what would you say to them?I would say, “You do not need to compete for love or attention because there is enough for both of you. One person’s success does not make the other less important.”
Are you writing from the perspective of a child who had (or has) sibling rivalry, or from the perspective of a parent watching your kids experience it?I’m writing from the perspective of a child who experienced sibling rivalry. I have an older brother, and growing up we were both very competitive with each other. We were close in some moments, but we also argued a lot because we both wanted attention and wanted to prove ourselves.
What’s your earliest memory (or your child’s most common pattern) involving rivalry or strong comparison in the family?One of my earliest memories was comparing grades in school. Whenever one of us got praised, the other would quietly feel pressured to do better. Sometimes we also fought over small things like toys, TV time, or who got blamed less during arguments.
Is there still rivalry or comparison happening now—and how does it feel?Now that we are older, the rivalry is less intense. We still compare ourselves sometimes, especially when talking about achievements or responsibilities, but it feels healthier than before. Instead of fighting, we try to support each other more.
What positive things did (or might) this rivalry teach you or your children about themselves?It taught me how to speak up for myself and handle jealousy in a healthier way. I also learned that competition is not always bad because it pushed me to improve myself and become more independent.
What’s one thing you wish could be different about how this rivalry shows up?I wish we compared ourselves less and appreciated each other more while growing up. It would have made our relationship kinder and less stressful.
If you could talk to your younger self or your younger children during a tough rivalry moment, what would you say to them?I would say, “You do not need to compete for love or attention because there is enough for both of you. One person’s success does not make the other less important.”
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