#AloneByDesign g/confessions g/studio 1. When you imagine…
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1. When you imagine getting old and living alone, no partner,no kids,no relatives just you, whats your first feeling?Explain Briefly.
The first feeling comes to mind is "Quiet".
For a mother like me, my entire existence is defines by noise,responsibility and mental load. My brain is always expecting to hear "Whats for dinner?", "mama! wheres my socks?" etc.
2. What part of that idea scares you the most? Explain.
To suddenly imagine a life where nobody calls me, where the house stays as clean as I left it feels like stepping into a "void room", like a room with nothing else but me and that feels scary.
3. Is there any part of that idea that feels okay, or even freeing? Explain
Yes, A mother brain is like a computer with hundreds of tabs open, each simultaneously running a program, So imagining living entirely alone means that all those tabs are now closed. No need to think of what will be our food for the day, no child asking for stuffs, no husband to deal with emotionally. Its like my calendar schedule suddenly cleared and I have all the time in the world to do whatever i want.
4. If you could design your “ideal solo old age,” what would it look like? Describe.
If I were to design my absolute ideal solo old age, it would be a small home, entirely low maintenance, a quite coastal cottage with a view of the water, lots of natural sunlight, A desk with laptop againts a big window -
a garden full of flowers, fruit bearing trees and vegetable plants and a small fishpond with a little water fountain where you can hear the sound of water.
5. What’s one thing you can start doing now to prepare for any future—alone or not?
If theres one thing that I can do now to prepare for the future is to start dating myself. I have to be comfortable and be independent with the thought that I might spend my old age being alone. I have to practice and build a world where its still interesting, stable and enjoyable even with my own company.
1. When you imagine getting old and living alone, no partner,no kids,no relatives just you, whats your first feeling?Explain Briefly.
The first feeling comes to mind is "Quiet".
For a mother like me, my entire existence is defines by noise,responsibility and mental load. My brain is always expecting to hear "Whats for dinner?", "mama! wheres my socks?" etc.
2. What part of that idea scares you the most? Explain.
To suddenly imagine a life where nobody calls me, where the house stays as clean as I left it feels like stepping into a "void room", like a room with nothing else but me and that feels scary.
3. Is there any part of that idea that feels okay, or even freeing? Explain
Yes, A mother brain is like a computer with hundreds of tabs open, each simultaneously running a program, So imagining living entirely alone means that all those tabs are now closed. No need to think of what will be our food for the day, no child asking for stuffs, no husband to deal with emotionally. Its like my calendar schedule suddenly cleared and I have all the time in the world to do whatever i want.
4. If you could design your “ideal solo old age,” what would it look like? Describe.
If I were to design my absolute ideal solo old age, it would be a small home, entirely low maintenance, a quite coastal cottage with a view of the water, lots of natural sunlight, A desk with laptop againts a big window -
a garden full of flowers, fruit bearing trees and vegetable plants and a small fishpond with a little water fountain where you can hear the sound of water.
5. What’s one thing you can start doing now to prepare for any future—alone or not?
If theres one thing that I can do now to prepare for the future is to start dating myself. I have to be comfortable and be independent with the thought that I might spend my old age being alone. I have to practice and build a world where its still interesting, stable and enjoyable even with my own company.
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