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It's about priorities, nothing more.
About doing the right thing or do a huge mistake by not doing it.
When I read the love part and getting married , was cheerful. Then , you mentioned the death and the orphan baby, a piece of the #family .
All the previous thoughts vanished at that moment.... was eating your words to see what happened after that part.
I don't need to be in any shoes to know that's the right decision to adopt that baby, especially with old parents at home.
I don't think the girl would be a good wife, even without kids.
At the first serious struggle, a family situation, she ran away.
Love !? Is that love ?
No sweetheart , it was an illusion of love. People who loves you stand by your side in the worst moments and situations. They don't coward and run away.
But, a good point for the girl, she was direct and honest to announce it, better than pretending to accept then you and the baby will pay hard when she can't resist and face her fears anymore (when more hard times come).
Saving a soul , curing a wound in the family , carrying the image of your sister.
For your parents , the baby is a live memory of their daughter ... What can be better than that ?!
Imagine you ran after your girlfriend and married her . Then what ?!!
Will be happy ? Never 🙂↔️
Will live in regret .. and if you try to fix the situation she won't allow you after the wedding. You will lose yourself slowly , then lose everything.
So.. I see it a noble decision from a brave loyal heart.
Big sacrifices and tough days on the horizon but necessary, part of the life path with or without that baby.
The situation seems to be complicated for the first sight. But it's not.
(I was thinking of similar situation for weeks.
if one of my sister's husbands dies , I will jump to help them with their kids whatever it cost.)
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It's about priorities, nothing more.
About doing the right thing or do a huge mistake by not doing it.
When I read the love part and getting married , was cheerful. Then , you mentioned the death and the orphan baby, a piece of the #family .
All the previous thoughts vanished at that moment.... was eating your words to see what happened after that part.
I don't need to be in any shoes to know that's the right decision to adopt that baby, especially with old parents at home.
I don't think the girl would be a good wife, even without kids.
At the first serious struggle, a family situation, she ran away.
Love !? Is that love ?
No sweetheart , it was an illusion of love. People who loves you stand by your side in the worst moments and situations. They don't coward and run away.
But, a good point for the girl, she was direct and honest to announce it, better than pretending to accept then you and the baby will pay hard when she can't resist and face her fears anymore (when more hard times come).
Saving a soul , curing a wound in the family , carrying the image of your sister.
For your parents , the baby is a live memory of their daughter ... What can be better than that ?!
Imagine you ran after your girlfriend and married her . Then what ?!!
Will be happy ? Never 🙂↔️
Will live in regret .. and if you try to fix the situation she won't allow you after the wedding. You will lose yourself slowly , then lose everything.
So.. I see it a noble decision from a brave loyal heart.
Big sacrifices and tough days on the horizon but necessary, part of the life path with or without that baby.
The situation seems to be complicated for the first sight. But it's not.
(I was thinking of similar situation for weeks.
if one of my sister's husbands dies , I will jump to help them with their kids whatever it cost.)
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It was so nice reading your answer well it was like you’re that tough guy who can accept things when it’s sixes and seven. Carry on … pain without glory is not really glory at all … but not all pain are sufferings maybe times will resolve everything in Gods hands… cos sometimes fears -really end up with pressure … but pressure can be best answered with a good support system..
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Thank you. You are right about that. Not easy to embrace the pain and have a clear mind to deal with it.
Time is the key 💪
Time is the key 💪
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Lovely bro,Your story really made me think…
Life sometimes puts us in situations where priorities matter more than emotions. You chose responsibility, and that’s not easy.
May Allah give you strength and ease in your journey.
Life sometimes puts us in situations where priorities matter more than emotions. You chose responsibility, and that’s not easy.
May Allah give you strength and ease in your journey.
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Amin ajma3in
Everything and everyone is subject of my judgement, then priorities and decisions will show up as results.
Thank you sister, but it's not my own story , I was just analysing and providing a "spicy" opinion.
Everything and everyone is subject of my judgement, then priorities and decisions will show up as results.
Thank you sister, but it's not my own story , I was just analysing and providing a "spicy" opinion.
Your words hit me like a slap but one that also feels like it’s trying to wake me up, not just judge me.
You’re right about the priorities.
That time the only thing that made sense was to stay. Nobody else was stepping up. My parents were broken. Someone had to hold that tiny life and say, “You’re not alone.”
But what you said about her not being a “good wife” and that it wasn’t love, that part tears me.
She wasn’t a coward in the way you mean—she just had a different kind of breaking. Her fear of motherhood, of losing control, of drowning in a life she didn’t choose, was real. She didn’t stay and pretend and I can’t say that’s worse than slowly turning into someone who resents you both.
Still, you’re right that real love shows up in the worst moments.
And in the end, she didn’t. She said no to the version of our life that actually needed her the most—not to me as a person, but to the kind of family we suddenly became.
You’re also right about something else:
If I had chased her after that, married her anyway, and then tried to “fix” it later it would’ve been a slow, quiet disaster. She would’ve carried resentment, I would’ve carried guilt and my niece would’ve been caught in the middle of our half‑done choices.
You poured your heart to this and I can feel that. You’re the kind of person who’d jump in and help your sister’s kids without a second thought—that’s not fake. That’s real.
I’m still learning to walk this road without waiting for someone who already left.
But your words made me feel, for the first time in a while, that this choice wasn’t a mistake. It was just a different kind of love—one that looks more like duty, less like a wedding, and a lot more like survival.
Thank you for not sugar‑coating it.
Sometimes the truth hurts enough to finally move.
You’re right about the priorities.
That time the only thing that made sense was to stay. Nobody else was stepping up. My parents were broken. Someone had to hold that tiny life and say, “You’re not alone.”
But what you said about her not being a “good wife” and that it wasn’t love, that part tears me.
She wasn’t a coward in the way you mean—she just had a different kind of breaking. Her fear of motherhood, of losing control, of drowning in a life she didn’t choose, was real. She didn’t stay and pretend and I can’t say that’s worse than slowly turning into someone who resents you both.
Still, you’re right that real love shows up in the worst moments.
And in the end, she didn’t. She said no to the version of our life that actually needed her the most—not to me as a person, but to the kind of family we suddenly became.
You’re also right about something else:
If I had chased her after that, married her anyway, and then tried to “fix” it later it would’ve been a slow, quiet disaster. She would’ve carried resentment, I would’ve carried guilt and my niece would’ve been caught in the middle of our half‑done choices.
You poured your heart to this and I can feel that. You’re the kind of person who’d jump in and help your sister’s kids without a second thought—that’s not fake. That’s real.
I’m still learning to walk this road without waiting for someone who already left.
But your words made me feel, for the first time in a while, that this choice wasn’t a mistake. It was just a different kind of love—one that looks more like duty, less like a wedding, and a lot more like survival.
Thank you for not sugar‑coating it.
Sometimes the truth hurts enough to finally move.
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Hello 👋
I didn't mean to make you feel bad, not my intention at all.
I said that she was direct and honest to announce she wasn't ready for such responsibility.
By saying she couldn't be a good wife, I meant with her fears of responsibility changes. You know how it is to be in family, sudden changes would make her feel unprepared and reject it, probably run away too.
Thank you for being open for such "cutting" opinion like mine.
I tried to make it soft, but ,soft wouldn't deliver the message as it should be for such serious matter.
You know ... Feelings can easily blind the reason. And that cloud should be pierced to see things clearly.
Didn't mean to be harsh 🙇♂️
I didn't mean to make you feel bad, not my intention at all.
I said that she was direct and honest to announce she wasn't ready for such responsibility.
By saying she couldn't be a good wife, I meant with her fears of responsibility changes. You know how it is to be in family, sudden changes would make her feel unprepared and reject it, probably run away too.
Thank you for being open for such "cutting" opinion like mine.
I tried to make it soft, but ,soft wouldn't deliver the message as it should be for such serious matter.
You know ... Feelings can easily blind the reason. And that cloud should be pierced to see things clearly.
Didn't mean to be harsh 🙇♂️