you mentioned a really good point (to not say asocial issue) about social media in general , not only tangled.
it's that fine tiny fragile line between real and virtual "life" + iceberg ...
in general people tend to express / show and to run after what they miss / can't do in real life far from screen. kind of psychological compensation... huge topic 😅
sooo ... i would say i barely know how to be you , how to adopt your ways, for the same reason you mentioned " i know what you allowed me to know " ..
but i can find and follow a pattern by analyzing your profile 🙇♂️