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Have you confused usefulness with significance?
I have spent a good portion of my life believing that being needed was a measure of my significance. Being the provider, the problem solver, the dependable one. There was something rewarding about knowing others counted on me.
But somewhere along the way, I began to recognize something about that mindset.
When we build our identity around being needed, what happens when someone no longer needs us?
Our children grow up. Relationships evolve. Careers end. People become independent. Suddenly, the very things that once made us feel important are no longer required.
And we begin questioning our value.
I have come to understand that there is a tremendous difference between being needed and being appreciated. Being needed can create a dependency. Being appreciated recognizes the value of our presence.
Think about your relationships. Are you constantly doing things for others because you genuinely want to, or because being useful makes you feel significant?
There is nothing wrong with helping, providing, or supporting others. Those can be beautiful expressions of love. But when our happiness depends on others needing us, we begin giving away our peace to circumstances we cannot control.
Our True Self doesn't require constant validation through usefulness.
Today, I encourage you to recognize something important. You don't have to earn your significance by solving everyone's problems. You can contribute to someone's life without becoming responsible for their happiness.
Because your greatest value isn't necessarily found in what you do for others.
Sometimes it's simply found in who you are when you're with them.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#worth #measure #usefulness #presence #value
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Sid Suratia
I have spent a good portion of my life believing that being needed was a measure of my significance. Being the provider, the problem solver, the dependable one. There was something rewarding about knowing others counted on me.
But somewhere along the way, I began to recognize something about that mindset.
When we build our identity around being needed, what happens when someone no longer needs us?
Our children grow up. Relationships evolve. Careers end. People become independent. Suddenly, the very things that once made us feel important are no longer required.
And we begin questioning our value.
I have come to understand that there is a tremendous difference between being needed and being appreciated. Being needed can create a dependency. Being appreciated recognizes the value of our presence.
Think about your relationships. Are you constantly doing things for others because you genuinely want to, or because being useful makes you feel significant?
There is nothing wrong with helping, providing, or supporting others. Those can be beautiful expressions of love. But when our happiness depends on others needing us, we begin giving away our peace to circumstances we cannot control.
Our True Self doesn't require constant validation through usefulness.
Today, I encourage you to recognize something important. You don't have to earn your significance by solving everyone's problems. You can contribute to someone's life without becoming responsible for their happiness.
Because your greatest value isn't necessarily found in what you do for others.
Sometimes it's simply found in who you are when you're with them.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#worth #measure #usefulness #presence #value
Background Photo Credit:
Sid Suratia
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Are you valued or just needed?
I have noticed something over the years while working with people. Some of the most exhausted people I meet are also the ones everyone seems to depend on.
They are the ones who always answer the phone, solve the problems, make the sacrifices, and find a way to make things work for everyone else.
And somewhere along the way, they begin to believe their worth comes from how much they are needed.
I have learned there is a tremendous difference between being needed and being valued.
Being needed can mean someone appreciates what you do for them. Being valued means they appreciate who you are, even when you have nothing to give.
Think about that for a moment.
How often do we sacrifice our own peace because we believe disappointing someone means we are somehow less important to them?
We begin saying yes when we want to say no. We carry responsibilities that were never ours. Eventually, we become so busy meeting the expectations of others that we lose sight of our own True Self.
I believe one of the greatest things we can learn is that our value does not have to be earned through constant sacrifice.
Today, pay attention to where your energy is going. Help because you genuinely want to, not because you fear what someone might think if you don’t.
You can be compassionate and still have boundaries. You can love someone without carrying everything for them.
Your True Potential grows when you recognize that your worth exists even when you are doing absolutely nothing for anyone else.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#worth #measure #give #presence #value
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Priscilla Du Preez
I have noticed something over the years while working with people. Some of the most exhausted people I meet are also the ones everyone seems to depend on.
They are the ones who always answer the phone, solve the problems, make the sacrifices, and find a way to make things work for everyone else.
And somewhere along the way, they begin to believe their worth comes from how much they are needed.
I have learned there is a tremendous difference between being needed and being valued.
Being needed can mean someone appreciates what you do for them. Being valued means they appreciate who you are, even when you have nothing to give.
Think about that for a moment.
How often do we sacrifice our own peace because we believe disappointing someone means we are somehow less important to them?
We begin saying yes when we want to say no. We carry responsibilities that were never ours. Eventually, we become so busy meeting the expectations of others that we lose sight of our own True Self.
I believe one of the greatest things we can learn is that our value does not have to be earned through constant sacrifice.
Today, pay attention to where your energy is going. Help because you genuinely want to, not because you fear what someone might think if you don’t.
You can be compassionate and still have boundaries. You can love someone without carrying everything for them.
Your True Potential grows when you recognize that your worth exists even when you are doing absolutely nothing for anyone else.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#worth #measure #give #presence #value
Background Photo Credit:
Priscilla Du Preez
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What would you miss tomorrow that you barely noticed today?
Yesterday reminded me how easy it is to miss just how good an ordinary day can be.
I spent part of the afternoon with my youngest grandson. Later, I was at a sporting event with family and a friend. Then I came home, picked up two of my grandsons, and brought them home for a sleepover.
Nothing extraordinary happened.
But somewhere in the middle of it all, gratitude hit me.
I realized how fortunate I am to have family close enough that these moments can happen. And it made me wonder how many good things in life fall through the cracks simply because we are not present enough to recognize them while they are happening.
We tend to notice value when something changes.
You appreciate your knees when they hurt. Sleep when it becomes difficult. A conversation with your parents when those conversations become fewer. The friend who always answers when one day they cannot.
The strange thing about ordinary life is that consistency can make something valuable feel common.
What keeps showing up becomes expected.
And what becomes expected often stops being appreciated.
So today, pay attention.
Look around at the people, abilities, routines, and little moments that continue to show up for you. Do not wait for their absence to teach you their value.
Presence gives you the opportunity to experience gratitude now instead of someday looking backward wishing you had.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#absense #value #present #show #appreciation
Background Photo Credit:
Guille Pozzi
Yesterday reminded me how easy it is to miss just how good an ordinary day can be.
I spent part of the afternoon with my youngest grandson. Later, I was at a sporting event with family and a friend. Then I came home, picked up two of my grandsons, and brought them home for a sleepover.
Nothing extraordinary happened.
But somewhere in the middle of it all, gratitude hit me.
I realized how fortunate I am to have family close enough that these moments can happen. And it made me wonder how many good things in life fall through the cracks simply because we are not present enough to recognize them while they are happening.
We tend to notice value when something changes.
You appreciate your knees when they hurt. Sleep when it becomes difficult. A conversation with your parents when those conversations become fewer. The friend who always answers when one day they cannot.
The strange thing about ordinary life is that consistency can make something valuable feel common.
What keeps showing up becomes expected.
And what becomes expected often stops being appreciated.
So today, pay attention.
Look around at the people, abilities, routines, and little moments that continue to show up for you. Do not wait for their absence to teach you their value.
Presence gives you the opportunity to experience gratitude now instead of someday looking backward wishing you had.
If this message spoke to you or something within it resonated, I invite you to check out my other ideas in my books sold on Amazon. They have already helped thousands worldwide.
– Coach Mike
EDIT Your GOALS
Every
Day
Internal
Thoughts
Guarantee
Our
Absolute
Life
Situations
#absense #value #present #show #appreciation
Background Photo Credit:
Guille Pozzi
