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#BreakingPoint #earn #activity
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Good #Relationships are built on respect, trust, honesty, sincerity . then come #love , affection , protection .... as results.
i think those are the pillars , if any of those became unstable, the whole relationship become insecure.
and of course we will lose one or more of those results gradually (if not fixed) till the total collapse... impact is subjective and affects all ramifications of that relationship ...
those pillars creates choice decision , if a person fail to test and see real value (the other person) will automatically jump into risky relationship that won't last.
so choice is subjective too and mutual. no one should accept to stick with someone who rejects him/her. rejection meets rejection, simple.
of course there's some exceptions , made by choice or necessity which opens the door on benefits and #psychological aspects .. present especially between spouses / family.
in the case of our friend here, i wouldn't expect changes without knowing the causes and work on them.
if a woman lose interest in her man , then the problem is around him , won't look far away . won't drop her and assume directly to pull her back easily. bcze it's not a quick decision she made..
think " maybe i am the reason, maybe pressure at home, maybe she compared herself with others and wanted to get "free" , maybe she is a victim of temptation"
always the kids are the victims of such failure. i would do anything to protect them even from myself , so if there's sacrifices, then let it be.
if i fail to contain the issue and she decide to keep doing what she do, i'll push her away for good.
if the kids need a mother, i'll get a wife, if i can take care of them alone, then will have time to rearrange everything hoping to surpass the #depression in short time without getting them into it.
soooo ... i would suggest to try to find out where did it fail , then find out why she did it . that is priceles lesson , he should not miss it.
not easy to be stabbed after years by who you considered soul-mate and your half... and have kids responsibility . and even the places would revive that wound, memories will make it harder to heal.
would be wise to travel or move to another place , even for short time. family visits will help a lot. let your kids feel they belong to family.
will give you time to think properly. dont close your door, don't run to shots, drugs and such .. you will be your wife and fall in #addiction then. talk, walk, do some activities, meet people...
maybe, who knows, you bump into a good magical woman , not a witch in disguise. kids are priority here, but won't grow up in safe way if you are not balanced. do not run behind women, let it come slowly. slower is sweeter .
whatever you decide to do... whenever their mother want to see them, or they want their mom .. make it happen in good atmosphere even for few minutes.
i have a friend (woman) divorced with 4 kids and recently my friend (man) with a little daughter went into # #divorce process..
different stories, different conditions but one thing is sure .. divorce is destructive.
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if i missed something, will add it later when i feel better.
#familymatter
By,
Good #Relationships are built on respect, trust, honesty, sincerity . then come #love , affection , protection .... as results.
i think those are the pillars , if any of those became unstable, the whole relationship become insecure.
and of course we will lose one or more of those results gradually (if not fixed) till the total collapse... impact is subjective and affects all ramifications of that relationship ...
those pillars creates choice decision , if a person fail to test and see real value (the other person) will automatically jump into risky relationship that won't last.
so choice is subjective too and mutual. no one should accept to stick with someone who rejects him/her. rejection meets rejection, simple.
of course there's some exceptions , made by choice or necessity which opens the door on benefits and #psychological aspects .. present especially between spouses / family.
in the case of our friend here, i wouldn't expect changes without knowing the causes and work on them.
if a woman lose interest in her man , then the problem is around him , won't look far away . won't drop her and assume directly to pull her back easily. bcze it's not a quick decision she made..
think " maybe i am the reason, maybe pressure at home, maybe she compared herself with others and wanted to get "free" , maybe she is a victim of temptation"
always the kids are the victims of such failure. i would do anything to protect them even from myself , so if there's sacrifices, then let it be.
if i fail to contain the issue and she decide to keep doing what she do, i'll push her away for good.
if the kids need a mother, i'll get a wife, if i can take care of them alone, then will have time to rearrange everything hoping to surpass the #depression in short time without getting them into it.
soooo ... i would suggest to try to find out where did it fail , then find out why she did it . that is priceles lesson , he should not miss it.
not easy to be stabbed after years by who you considered soul-mate and your half... and have kids responsibility . and even the places would revive that wound, memories will make it harder to heal.
would be wise to travel or move to another place , even for short time. family visits will help a lot. let your kids feel they belong to family.
will give you time to think properly. dont close your door, don't run to shots, drugs and such .. you will be your wife and fall in #addiction then. talk, walk, do some activities, meet people...
maybe, who knows, you bump into a good magical woman , not a witch in disguise. kids are priority here, but won't grow up in safe way if you are not balanced. do not run behind women, let it come slowly. slower is sweeter .
whatever you decide to do... whenever their mother want to see them, or they want their mom .. make it happen in good atmosphere even for few minutes.
i have a friend (woman) divorced with 4 kids and recently my friend (man) with a little daughter went into # #divorce process..
different stories, different conditions but one thing is sure .. divorce is destructive.
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if i missed something, will add it later when i feel better.
#familymatter
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That is a heavy, raw, and deeply insightful reflection. Sad but you're processing this through the lens of your friends' struggles—it clearly weighs on you.🙅🔕 It sounds like you are being a very solid anchor for your friend.
You really hit the nail on the head.💯 We aren’t just talking about a breakup here; we’re talking about a life being pulled apart at the seams.
I love how you framed those "pillars." Most people think love is the fuel you pour into a relationship to make it go, but you’re suggesting love is actually the result of a healthy system. If the respect and honesty aren't there, the "love" engine just stops running. 🚘🚘It makes total sense—if the output fails, you have to pop the hood and look at the machinery (the root causes) rather than just wishing it would start back up.
But let me tell you one thing, there is no magic, only gift.🤔🤔🤔
All you need to do is open your eyes, you'll see it🙌✨✨✨
You really hit the nail on the head.💯 We aren’t just talking about a breakup here; we’re talking about a life being pulled apart at the seams.
I love how you framed those "pillars." Most people think love is the fuel you pour into a relationship to make it go, but you’re suggesting love is actually the result of a healthy system. If the respect and honesty aren't there, the "love" engine just stops running. 🚘🚘It makes total sense—if the output fails, you have to pop the hood and look at the machinery (the root causes) rather than just wishing it would start back up.
But let me tell you one thing, there is no magic, only gift.🤔🤔🤔
All you need to do is open your eyes, you'll see it🙌✨✨✨
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thank you 🥰
i wasn't reflecting my friends experiences, actually this what i told them both.
there was no cheating or alcohol involved in their situations, lack of family respect of their privacy ..
i agree about the gift , as there's too many people who don't believe in such thing and call it magic or luck or "coup de foudre" .
there's a chemistry call wich goes along with psychology ...
you really focused on details , i like it 😎
i wasn't reflecting my friends experiences, actually this what i told them both.
there was no cheating or alcohol involved in their situations, lack of family respect of their privacy ..
i agree about the gift , as there's too many people who don't believe in such thing and call it magic or luck or "coup de foudre" .
there's a chemistry call wich goes along with psychology ...
you really focused on details , i like it 😎
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